TEEN SEX

SEX is not just a physical act to relive sexual tension. Having sex can cause very strong EMOTIONS. Sometimes a teenager (or even some adults) may only realize this after having sex… Teens who accept the media’s portrayal of sex as fun, glamorous, and a rite of passage to adulthood are often surprised when their own sexual experiences do not live up to their expectations. The Hollywood or Bollywood or Nollywood version of sex shows people meeting, having sex, falling in love, and living happily ever after. Rarely does the media show any of the negative consequences of sexual activity like pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, disillusionment, or broken hearts, etc.

Maturity and life experiences can prepare some teens for some of the consequences of sexual activity and lessen the effect of others, yet many a teen is usually unprepared for the feelings of regret or emptiness after sex! Ama Atta, who was eighteen years old when she first had sex with Kwesi Mensah her boyfriend, explains how emotionally lost she felt after the experience: “Instead of feeling like I’d crossed some sacred threshold into true womanhood, I felt like I’d just slammed the door on ever being a little girl again. I was 18—an adult by legal standards—and yet there was still a little girl inside of me who wasn’t quite ready to let go of who she was. I felt as if I’d given away a part of me that I could never get back. I think I assumed too much. I thought that since my partner loved me a great deal and we’d given the event so much forethought, I would be left with a rosy “afterglow” instead of the emptiness I felt…According to Ama, Hollywood’s portrayal of premarital sex is “The Big Lie!”

It is for this reason that people (especially TEENAGERS) should carefully think about the consequences of having sex well before they actually do it. Sexual intercourse is the most INTIMATE thing that two people can do, and when having sex, it is said that two bodies become one. Sex can cause strong feelings for both people; and females will most likely feel this strongest. A female teen should carefully think about the possibility of having sex, because once she does, it cannot be ERASED. If her partner is not MATURE enough to handle the emotions that will occur, she may find she will dearly regret her decision! Sex can lead a person to think and feel that they are in love, or it can make the feelings of love stronger; a person should be sure a relationship is lasting before having sex!

A person (especially teenagers) should be sure that they can handle the emotions of sex and the responsibilities of sex before they have intercourse. Sex can be a wonderful thing; but there is no rush. Sex always has SOME consequences. For instance, when Adolf Hitler's mother spread her legs that night, she effectively canceled out the spreading of fifteen to twenty million other pairs of legs!!! One thing I've learned over the years is that, when you make love when you really don't feel it; there's probably nothing worse you can do to yourself than that!

BY SIR GILLY

TEEN SEX